Harmful Relationships Resources

Content warning: This page and its links contain information about relationship violence.

Relationships exist on a spectrum, from healthy to unhealthy to abusive—and everywhere in between. Relationships that involve sexual assault or abuse, harassment, interpersonal violence, emotional manipulation, excessive control, and/or stalking can be hard for survivors to process. These types of harmful relationships may be between you and a romantic partner, friend, family member, or a stranger. 

Counselors at CMHS are trauma-informed and will work with you to help figure out what you need and want. They can help you review your options, process experiences, develop coping strategies to manage emotions, and regain a sense of safety. CARE is also a resource for you.

Aspects of Healthy Relationships

  • Respect
  • Honesty
  • Safety
  • Mutual support of each other and each other's choices, even if you disagree
  • Having an equal say and respecting each other's boundaries
  • Time and space for both of you to study or hang out with friends or family
  • Sharing your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences
  • Any sex is consensual sex that is wanted by both you and your partner

Warning Signs of Unhealthy and/or Abusive Relationships

  • Checking your cell phone or email without your permission
  • Threatening statements
  • Constant put-downs and insults
  • Emotional or financial control
  • Restrictions on your time or activities outside the relationship
  • Extreme jealousy or insecurity
  • Explosive temper
  • Isolating from family or friends
  • False accusations
  • Physical harm of any kind
  • Possessiveness
  • Controlling behavior
  • Sexual coercion or non-consensual sex

(Adapted from LoveisRespect.org)